KEY’ping it Safe
This has turned out to be an interesting aspect of late. While we can not be together at the moment we struggle with day to day temptations of the flesh.
I can not speak for her and how this affects her, but as a guy temptations come at you all the time.
In this post what am referring to is sexual temptations, not necessarily a sexual encounter with another person, because I do possess that level of control.
As a male, even as an older male. I cannot count how many erections I get in a day. They usually happen at random with no sexual influence and for me is a distraction. But, other times something may pop up while researching something, an image on TV, or somewhere of a sexual nature.
We are bombarded as men with constant sexual imagery and as guys want to take care of that urge. Whether it be a random erection or erection caused by someone or some type of imagery. We get the urge to take care of our erections by masturbation. If we as guys give in to masturbating every time we get an erection we lose that sexual energy. And when we want to be intimate with our wife / girlfriend we have no sexual energy left for them. And that I believe is where a lot of relationship issues happen.
Don’t get me wrong there is nothing wrong with masturbation, I like to masturbate, but I also like to do it with TJ. My masturbation habit would be to edge and not have an orgasm (if you do not know what edging is a quick web search will help you there).
Edging builds up sexual tension and energy, but if you have an orgasm that is all lost. That is why even when having sex with TJ, I will not cum by choice. For my age I believe that every 11 days (maybe longer) is a good waiting period to have an orgasm (to cum).
When TJ and I are together if I get an erection we will find a way together to best handle it (I won’t comment any more about that, but be guaranteed we will be naked).
But back to the purpose of this post. To talk about how I handle my daily erections and not let them be a distraction. Early on when TJ and I were reconnecting we had discussed may things, but I had brought up Chastity as a way to harness our sexual energy and handle distractions. We talked about it and it would be a practice for both of us.
But, for now I am the one practicing chastity. So I wear a device around my manhood that has a lock and I am unable to get an erection while wearing it. So the daily erections may try to come, but will never fully get there. This helps me get rid of the distractions, and focus my sexual energy on other more productive things. So to keep me honest TJ has a key to the lock and I do as well (for now). She will be the keeper of my keys to help me stay on course.